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Jillian Turecki

@jillianturecki · dating, relationship coach

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Helping people build healthy relationships. NYT Bestselling Author. 📚 Host @jillianonlove podcast🎙️ Pre-Order my new book 📘 👇🏽

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4.1M followers
10 reels read
52.9x best outlier
14.4x typical
49M views in here
23 Jul 2026 newest

how they make themsimple props, right length, useful advice, broad topic, calm delivery, direct delivery, broad appeal, original audio

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 30 Apr 2026

52.9x outlier

A relationship coach explains that how people treat you is about them and not you.

14M views
332K likes
4.9K comments
43K shares
56K saves
4.1M followers
23s long
2.4% liked
hookA calm, stylish woman speaks directly to the camera with bold text on screen.
  • The presenter. A dark-haired woman in glasses and a dark jacket looks directly into the lens.
  • The background. Bright bookshelf lighting creates a warm and professional studio feel.
  • The sound. Her voice is soft and clear with no background music.
  • The text. Large white text with green highlighted words pops up at the bottom.
  • Broad topic. Everyone deals with difficult people, so the message fits anyone.
retainThe steady advice and clear speech keep viewers listening closely.
  • Useful lesson. The speaker offers practical wisdom about personal relationships.
  • Spoken wisdom. She explains her idea directly without acting or extra scenes.
  • Calm delivery. Her steady voice and confident posture feel reassuring.
  • One shot. The video uses one unbroken take for all 23.0 seconds.
  • Simple props. A branded microphone and bookshelf show she runs a podcast.
  • Clear structure. Her speech moves easily from the cause to the final lesson.
  • Right length. The short duration gives a complete thought without wasting time.
rewardViewers feel relieved and gain a helpful new way to think about difficult people.
  • Feeling relieved. Viewers feel less hurt by how other people act.
  • New perspective. The video teaches a helpful mind shift for staying calm.
  • Self control. Viewers are reminded not to take rude behavior personally.
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It’s not an excuse. It’s a shift in perspective. It also means looking at our own behavior and recognizing that our internal state influences how we think and act. This is why the more we learn to regulate our emotions, the less reactive we are, and the better our relationships become.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 2 Apr 2026

22.6x outlier

A woman shares the single trait that every happy couple has in common.

5.9M views
121K likes
1K comments
0 shares
0 saves
4.1M followers
13s long
2.1% liked
hookA speaker directly addresses the camera with a bold claim about happy couples.
  • Speaker look. A woman with glasses and dark hair speaks clearly into a microphone.
  • Warm setting. She sits in front of a bookshelf filled with books in soft light.
  • Clear audio. Her voice is clear and direct without any background music.
  • Bold text. Bright green text highlights key words on the screen to grab focus.
  • Broad topic. Love and relationships appeal to almost anyone scrolling by.
retainViewers stay tuned to learn what single trait all happy couples share.
  • Useful advice. The message gives a simple key to relationship success.
  • Direct delivery. The speaker talks with calm authority and strong eye contact.
  • One take. The video is 13.2 seconds long and uses 1 unbroken take with no hard cuts.
  • Simple props. A microphone and bookshelf create a quiet podcast feel.
  • Easy to follow. The message moves from a mystery straight to the simple answer.
  • Perfect timing. The short length gives just enough room to deliver the full message.
rewardViewers learn a simple mindset shift that can improve relationships.
  • Taught something. Viewers learn that gratitude creates good relationships instead of just coming from them.
  • Feeling hopeful. People feel encouraged that strong relationships rely on a simple shared attitude.
  • Helpful reminder. It reminds partners to feel lucky and express thanks for each other every day.
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And they told each other, often. Might seem basic and obvious. But actually, it’s not. Gratitude isn’t the result of a good relationship. It’s the cause.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 10 Jul 2025

21.1x outlier

A relationship expert explains why bad treatment from others is about them and not your self worth.

5.5M views
265K likes
3.1K comments
0 shares
0 saves
4.1M followers
53s long
4.8% liked
hookA bold statement on screen grabs attention by challenging how people judge their own worth in relationships.
  • Speaker appearance. A woman in dark glasses and a black sweater sits comfortably on a chair.
  • Setting and light. Warm indoor lighting illuminates a cozy room with simple background details.
  • Background audio. Clear talking voice speaks over quiet ambient background sound without music.
  • Onscreen text. Bold black text with highlighted green words pops up word by word at the bottom.
  • Broad subject. Relationship self worth is something almost every person worries about.
retainThe steady one shot speech keeps viewers locked in by offering deep emotional relief step by step.
  • Useful advice. The speaker changes how we view mean behavior so we feel less hurt.
  • Direct speech. The message is explained directly into the camera with natural hand gestures.
  • Calm emotion. The speaker stays calm, reassuring, and confident throughout the entire clip.
  • Single camera take. The camera stays in 1 unbroken take for the full 53.4 seconds.
  • Microphone prop. A square microphone sits on a stand right in front of the speaker.
  • Clear logic. The thought moves step by step from noticing mean behavior to taking back your emotional power.
  • Right clip length. The 53.4 seconds is just long enough to deliver a complete thought without wasting time.
rewardViewers leave feeling relieved and less responsible for how badly other people treat them.
  • Feeling relieved. Viewers stop blaming themselves when someone is mean or cold to them.
  • Feeling empowered. Viewers realize they hold control over their own emotional health.
  • Learning to let go. Viewers discover that letting go does not even require formal forgiveness.
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The way someone treats you is not a reflection of your worth - it’s a reflection of their emotional capacity. When we stop internalizing others’ limitations as proof that we’re not enough, we begin to heal.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 31 Aug 2024

20.0x outlier

A relationship coach explains why walking away from a good person who cannot give you what you need is a brave choice.

5.2M views
289K likes
2.5K comments
0 shares
0 saves
4.1M followers
53s long
5.6% liked
hookThe bold white text on screen immediately grabs viewers with a message about walking away from someone you love.
  • Visual setup. A woman with glasses and dark hair wears a blue and gold top while talking directly to the camera.
  • Audio style. Her voice is clear, steady, and warm without background music.
  • Onscreen text. Large white text with a black background pops up near the bottom of the screen.
  • Broad appeal. Relationship advice about leaving someone who cannot meet your needs touches almost anyone who has dated.
retainViewers keep watching because her thoughtful explanation reframes leaving a partner as a brave step toward a better life.
  • Useful lesson. She explains that choosing yourself means recommitting to the life you know you must lead.
  • Direct delivery. The video relies on a simple talking head format rather than flashy edits or visual props.
  • Calm delivery. Her tone is empathetic and firm, making her advice feel sincere and reassuring.
  • Single shot. The entire video is 1 unbroken take that runs for 52.5 seconds long without any cuts.
  • Matching length. The length gives her enough time to deliver a complete thought without feeling dragged out.
rewardViewers leave feeling empowered to make tough personal decisions and re-examine their own relationships.
  • Self validation. Viewers feel reassured that wanting more from a partner is not selfish.
  • Brave inspiration. Viewers gain courage to walk away from situations that no longer serve their future.
  • Deep reflection. Viewers think about whether their current partner or job matches what they really deserve.
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Yesterday a 28 year old man approached me to tell me that he completely changed his life after watching this video last year. He finally left the job that wasn’t right for him to pursue his passion and purpose. Knowing that this video has helped someone beyond a relationship makes me so happy! So, we can apply this to just about anything. Sometimes we have to be brave and face the unknown - especially when our pattern is to stay too long.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 23 Jul 2026

14.7x outlier

A relationship expert explains why marrying someone with good character matters more than anything else.

3.8M views
132K likes
2.2K comments
18K shares
32K saves
4.1M followers
21s long
3.4% liked
hookA woman speaking wisely about love makes people stop to hear her advice.
  • Smart appearance. A woman with glasses and dark hair looks right at you.
  • Warm room. The soft yellow wall and bookshelves behind her feel quiet and safe.
  • Original audio. Her voice starts talking right away without background music.
  • Big text. Bright green and white words appear near her hands as she speaks.
  • Big topic. Almost everyone wants to know who they should marry.
retainThe advice is clear and hits hard, so people listen until she finishes her point.
  • Useful idea. She gives clear advice on what bad traits to avoid in a partner.
  • Direct talk. She explains her thought directly instead of acting out a scene.
  • Serious tone. Her face and hands show she cares deeply about this topic.
  • One long take. The video is 1 unbroken take, 20.7 seconds long, with no cuts.
  • Simple microphone. A dark mic sits in front of her, but the video does not work without it because audio is key.
  • Easy to follow. She lists three bad traits one after another without stopping.
  • Right length. The video is short enough to keep her message strong and clear.
rewardViewers walk away with a smart rule for choosing a life partner.
  • Taught something. Viewers learn what traits matter most in a long relationship.
  • Tough reminder. It makes people think about their own partner or past relationships.
  • Inspired feel. People feel ready to hold higher standards for who they marry.
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Strong character is far more rare, and more valuable, than charm. Marry (or partner with) the person with integrity.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 8 Jun 2026

14.1x outlier

A relationship expert explains why you should never try to convince someone to choose or love you.

3.7M views
84K likes
1.6K comments
7.8K shares
18K saves
4.1M followers
16s long
2.3% liked
hookA woman speaks directly to the screen with clear words about self respect in love.
  • Speaker appearance. A woman with dark hair and glasses sits in front of the camera.
  • Podcast setting. Warm shelf lights show books and decorations in the back.
  • Onscreen text words. Bold white words with green highlights catch the eye.
  • Broad audience reach. The video speaks to anyone who has tried to fix a relationship.
retainThe quiet confidence of the speaker keeps viewers focused on her message.
  • Useful life advice. The tip explains why you should never convince someone to love you.
  • Calm vocal tone. The speaker sounds steady and sure of her words.
  • Single video take. The camera stays on her for 1 unbroken take of 15.8 seconds.
  • Simple podcast prop. A soft microphone sits near her face to show a recording session.
  • Easy idea sequence. Each line builds up to the final choice to let someone go.
  • Matching short duration. The brief clip delivers the idea without extra fluff.
rewardViewers feel ready to stop chasing people who do not return their effort.
  • Feeling stronger inside. Viewers feel more confident about setting personal boundaries.
  • Reminder of self worth. The message reminds people to choose partners who choose them back.
  • Clear mental rule. Viewers walk away with an easy phrase to remember during hard times.
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The full episode and context is from today’s new @jillianonlove episode where I answer some really intense questions, live. The Sign It’s Time To Let Them Go - listen today wherever you listen or watch. 🩷

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 11 Apr 2026

12.2x outlier

A woman talks about a major relationship red flag that you should never ignore.

3.2M views
52K likes
848 comments
0 shares
0 saves
4.1M followers
39s long
1.6% liked
hookA woman warns viewers about a big red flag to watch out for in relationships.
  • Speaker's look. Jillian Turecki wears glasses and a black shirt while speaking into a microphone.
  • Simple setting. She sits in a room with warm lighting and a bookshelf behind her.
  • Original audio. She speaks clearly with no background music playing.
  • Bold text captions. Large words appear on screen with important terms highlighted in green.
  • Broad topic. Relationships and red flags are things almost everyone cares about.
retainThe speaker explains the difference between normal doubts and doubting someone's character.
  • Useful advice. She explains that doubting someone's character is a clear sign to leave.
  • Direct talk. She explains her lesson directly to the camera without acting it out.
  • Calm delivery. Her tone is serious, calm, and wise as she talks.
  • Single shot. The video is 38.6 seconds long and made of 1 unbroken take with no cuts.
  • Simple props. A microphone and a podcast background set the scene for expert advice.
  • Clear message. Her explanation moves step by step from normal doubts to serious character red flags.
  • Right length. The short video covers one main point without wasting time.
rewardViewers learn how to spot a serious relationship warning sign.
  • Smart lesson. Viewers learn that character matters more than attraction.
  • Validation. People who had bad feelings about someone feel trusted in their judgment.
  • Clear warning. The video gives a simple rule on when to walk away from a bad partner.
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Friendship is the backbone of a long term relationship, and you can’t build that kind of genuine closeness with someone whose character you don’t trust. Teach your kids, tell your friends, and learn it yourself: value who someone is on the inside, over everything else.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 4 May 2026

10.8x outlier

A relationship coach explains why pulling away during an argument gives one person all the control and how to stop doing it.

2.8M views
60K likes
1.1K comments
16K shares
44K saves
4.1M followers
51s long
2.1% liked
hookA woman speaking directly to the camera with big text on screen makes viewers pause to hear relationship advice.
  • Clear presenter. A woman with dark hair and glasses looks right at the camera with a calm expression.
  • Quiet setting. She sits in front of colorful books inside a bright and neat room.
  • Bold captions. Large white text with bright green highlights appears with every spoken word.
  • Broad appeal. The message speaks to anyone who has felt shut out or ignored by a romantic partner.
retainThe simple talking head format keeps the focus entirely on the helpful advice.
  • Useful guidance. She explains why people emotionally pull away and offers a simple exercise to fix it.
  • Direct explanation. She talks directly to the viewer like a supportive coach giving sound guidance.
  • Calm tone. Her warm voice keeps the message encouraging rather than judgmental.
  • One unbroken take. The video stays in 1 unbroken take for all 50.9 seconds without any edits.
  • Simple props. She holds a small microphone with a logo while sitting in a cozy chair.
  • Easy structure. Her point moves step by step from naming the problem to sharing the solution.
  • Good length. The time fits the topic well without feeling rushed or overly long.
rewardViewers learn why withholding love harms relationships and how to speak up instead.
  • Deeper understanding. Viewers learn that pulling away is often an unspoken search for control.
  • Personal awareness. People who withdraw see that their silence is just a habit they can break.
  • Actionable tip. Viewers get a clear instruction to take a breath and talk when uncomfortable.
  • Validation for partners. People who feel ignored during fights learn why they feel so powerless.
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The person who consistently withdraws and withholds their love has all the control in the relationship. Please note this is not the same thing as needing time to process one’s feelings. Though that needs to be communicated, and should be respected.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 12 Feb 2026

10.6x outlier

A relationship expert explains why staying with someone who does not fully choose you damages your mental health.

2.8M views
98K likes
1.3K comments
0 shares
0 saves
4.1M followers
37s long
3.5% liked
hookA woman speaks directly to the camera about relationship pain, making people stop to hear her advice.
  • Woman speaking. A dark-haired woman in glasses and black clothing sits in a warm, simple room.
  • Clear audio. She speaks in a calm, clear voice without background music.
  • On screen text. White text appears near the bottom of the screen to highlight her words.
  • Broad audience appeal. Almost everyone has felt unsure about where they stand with someone they love.
retainThe steady, passionate delivery of relationship advice keeps viewers listening to every word.
  • Useful advice. She explains that no amount of chemistry can make up for the stress of being with an uncertain partner.
  • Calm emotion. Her serious face and steady tone show she cares deeply about the message.
  • Single long shot. The video is one unbroken take with no hard cuts over 36.6 seconds, keeping the focus entirely on her speech.
  • Microphone prop. Sitting behind a professional microphone makes her sound like a trusted expert.
  • Clear message. The idea moves from how your body feels to why you must choose better partners.
  • Good video length. At under forty seconds, her message is quick and easy to digest.
rewardViewers leave feeling validated about their relationship boundaries and ready to protect their peace.
  • Validation. They feel understood if they have been in a one-sided relationship.
  • Taught a lesson. They learn that body stress is a warning sign to pay attention to.
  • Self respect. They are inspired to leave people who do not fully commit to them.
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Long ago, I was married. I spent two years trying to be enough for someone who wasn’t all in instead of doing the incredibly hard, courageous work of having the hard conversations. I have no regrets, as it led me to here. To you. There is no connection that could have make up for the psychological toll that comes from being with someone who can’t love you. Choose yourself, please. You need more.

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@jillianturecki Jillian Turecki · 24 Jun 2026

8.4x outlier

A relationship coach explains why finding love after age forty is often much better.

2.2M views
52K likes
1.2K comments
11K shares
11K saves
4.1M followers
26s long
2.4% liked
hookA woman shares a comforting thought about love and age right at the start.
  • Clear portrait. A woman with glasses and dark hair speaks calmly into a podcast mic.
  • Simple studio. Books line shelves behind her in warm, soft light.
  • Original audio. She speaks clearly and with confidence from the first frame.
  • Bold captions. Large text appears at the bottom with bright green highlighted words.
  • Broad appeal. Almost everyone wonders about getting older and finding true love.
retainHer encouraging message keeps viewers listening to the very end.
  • Useful idea. She explains how older people know themselves better and communicate clearly.
  • Direct delivery. She talks straight to the camera like a friend giving wise advice.
  • Real examples. She mentions people finding love and learning to talk at forty-five and fifty.
  • One continuous shot. The video uses 1 unbroken take across all 26.0 seconds.
  • Minimal props. A microphone and books are in view, but her voice is what matters.
  • Easy structure. Her point moves simply from age numbers to an encouraging final reminder.
  • Right length. The brief clip delivers a complete thought without wasting time.
rewardViewers feel reassured and hopeful about their own future in relationships.
  • Feel hopeful. It reminds viewers that it is never too late to find real love.
  • Feel validated. Older viewers feel good about taking time to know themselves first.
  • Feel inspired. The message encourages people to trust their personal journey.
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For many people, a relationship after forty is the first time they can love without losing themselves. It’s when they finally know who they are, and can communicate better.

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